I'm still going through a learning phase (and will be eternally) when it comes to my relationship with Matt.
I will preface this by saying that I have never met anyone so generous as Matt.
If I have a whim at 11:30 p.m. for anything, anything at all, he will find a way to fulfill it.
When he worked across the city at his old job, he would often finish work at 2 a.m. and then walk all the way back to the apartment (no buses at that hour) to be with me.
When he went to a concert on Saturday night with his friends in Toronto, he brought me back a gift.
He knows how much I love Tintin and how I've been collecting the series.
So now my series looks like this:
That is how thoughtful Matt is. I could write lists of generous and kind things he has done for me.
Matt keeps me humble.
Sometimes he'll tell me that I'm so generous because I get up early to drive him to work or take the time to make his lunch for the next day, but in my eyes, our relationship is give-and-take. I give to him and try to be thoughtful and he repays me with the same kindness.
What I have learned while dating Matt is that humility is a very important aspect of our relationship.
As G.K. Chesterton put it so succinctly:
And even humility can take on a pride of it's own. We may look at ourselves and think, 'Wow, look at me being all humble and lowly. I'm amazing!'. It is easy to become lofty in our view of oneself.
(1: not proud or haughty : not arrogant or assertive
I realize that I have written on the importance of humility before. (You can read my previous post on it here.)
But this morning, after driving Matt to work and walking along the beach with Licorice, I realized how small we truly are, a speck in the massive swell of humanity, a dot in time, a passing existence on Earth.
I can compare it to my relationship with Matt. Our fighting, my sensitivity and the arguments I champion are so small compared to the big picture of our relationship. In recognizing that truly, I will be able to let the small things go.
Like I said, I'm still learning how to exist in my relationship, how to be myself and yet put the needs of the other person before mine.
I am so blessed to be with someone as loving and kind as Matt. I know my own heart and I know I don't deserve to be with someone like Matt. When I start acting as though I deserve all the good things I have received, I move toward a sense of entitlement.
Humility reminds me that I have been given the gift of a wonderful relationship and I must protect it, nurture it, grow it.
I believe that if everyone possessed a speck of humility in their hearts, we wouldn't have the conflict that we see in our world today.
Grace & Peace